Being a single parent can be difficult. However, what is sometimes almost more difficult than being a single parent is telling someone you are on your own.
Last weekend the kids and I went to a party. I met the nicest woman and we were having a lovely conversation. But, as often seems to be the case, she inevitably made reference to my husband. When this happens in a conversation, I have two choices:
- Nod and keep up the friendly conversation without ever mentioning that I’m divorced. It’s not a lie, just an omission, right?
- Try to casually (and cheerfully) mention the lack of said husband, then make mostly futile attempts at continuing the conversation.
Option one is best when it works, but all too often it leads to a more awkward moment later in the conversation when a direct question, like “So, what does your husband do for a living?”, is asked and I am then forced to acknowledge my divorce while the other person wonders why I’ve been letting them ramble on about marriage for the past ten minutes.
Option two, however, almost always leads to an immediate halt in the conversation as the other party struggles for something to say and I try to deflect the awkwardness with optimism – see, it’s okay, I’m happy, don’t worry, it’s fine, no big deal. The conversation generally ends at about this point.
There really just isn’t a good way to sweep past the subject, especially when I’ve got my four kids in tow. It’s almost as big of a problem as who is going to take out the trash every week. Trash is not my job. And yet, I’m the only one here. [Read More...]